Today we send the light of our love to those whose hearts still ache for what was lost but whose eyes are beginning to imagine what could yet be built.
Thank you, Wiz! This hit such a chord this morning! I hit a big low yesterday, feeling such a big gulf of unshared understanding with my very large married into a long time ago family. Hours later it slowly dawned on me that distance is not disaster, and does not preclude love for "non tribe" members, even though I wish things were different.
This is a time to just let those feelings flow through. Grief is the resistance to what is, and the way through is to slowly and gently allow the feelings associated with what is to move through you. Sometimes situations are so unacceptable to us that we avoid properly looking at them, and in doing so avoid feeling the feelings - but what is has not come to destroy. Each situation, each experience, is here to guide, grow and teach. Our power is not in resisting it, but integrating it. Allow the feelings to flow. I hope the lessons of this big low prove meaningful. xx
Agreed! I am reading a book right now that I resisted for a long time simply because it was a popular bestseller, but it has been helping me - Tara Brach's Radical Compassion. She has named her process RAIN for recognizing, allowing, investigating and finally, nurturing. Recognizing and allowing are not at all new to me, but I have given little to no attention to investigating and nurturing. This time I decided to invest the time and effort in the last two. The result was I could skip going into judgement about feeling hurt and dissed, and decide that it was OK to be myself and let others be on their own path, no matter how wrong and ignorant that looks to me. Sorry for the long response :( My Mars in the third house is being heavily activated right now . . .
Thanks for sharing all your wisdom and encouragement with all of us!!
Thank you, Wiz! This hit such a chord this morning! I hit a big low yesterday, feeling such a big gulf of unshared understanding with my very large married into a long time ago family. Hours later it slowly dawned on me that distance is not disaster, and does not preclude love for "non tribe" members, even though I wish things were different.
This is a time to just let those feelings flow through. Grief is the resistance to what is, and the way through is to slowly and gently allow the feelings associated with what is to move through you. Sometimes situations are so unacceptable to us that we avoid properly looking at them, and in doing so avoid feeling the feelings - but what is has not come to destroy. Each situation, each experience, is here to guide, grow and teach. Our power is not in resisting it, but integrating it. Allow the feelings to flow. I hope the lessons of this big low prove meaningful. xx
Agreed! I am reading a book right now that I resisted for a long time simply because it was a popular bestseller, but it has been helping me - Tara Brach's Radical Compassion. She has named her process RAIN for recognizing, allowing, investigating and finally, nurturing. Recognizing and allowing are not at all new to me, but I have given little to no attention to investigating and nurturing. This time I decided to invest the time and effort in the last two. The result was I could skip going into judgement about feeling hurt and dissed, and decide that it was OK to be myself and let others be on their own path, no matter how wrong and ignorant that looks to me. Sorry for the long response :( My Mars in the third house is being heavily activated right now . . .
Thanks for sharing all your wisdom and encouragement with all of us!!