I love this piece SO much. “If love is truth, and truth is fire, then sometimes love burns.” Your ability to see the truth behind all the noise is extraordinary. You’re my absolute favorite writer on Substack, and I follow a LOT of people! Bless you for making our world a better place and thank you for all you do! 💕
It’s the most important thing for us to all learn how to hold. Fear lives beneath all the fury in our world - a whole planet running scared because we forgot how to feel. Slowly, we are remembering….
Dear Wizard - I believe your message is describing true grief. Grief is sadly misunderstood, especially by American culture. The core of love that burns in the center of our being - whether for people, for Nature, for truth - feels like the enduring experience of grief. It is not temporary sadness, not superficial sentimentality. Grief is not just a feeling about “loss”. For me, grief is an enduring experience of overwhelming love where anger can arise to protect that which is precious - and “that” may be a living being or a living ideal, such as justice. The fire within the love can propel action to prevent harm, like a mother bear defending her cubs. Thank you for explaining what Neptune in Aries is revealing. May the truth within love propel Americans to defend democracy like a mother bear.
The image of the mother bear is powerful - that really is love in action, though it probably looks like rage or anger, when it’s really just love on fire. Grief is that thing we feel when what we get is miles away from what we wanted - grief is the chasm, and no wonder so much of us feel so much grief right now. This is not the world any of us wanted. The thing with grief is we’re not meant to rush through it or wait it out or hope it passes - we’re supposed to stare into that chasm and feel it deeply, and let those feelings guide our thoughts and actions. It’s only by feeling that grief for the world we hoped for that we didn’t get that we can hope to know what needs to be done to go after something better. xx
This is so true. My youngest son was born with severe disabilities. The grief I felt over the loss of the hopes and dreams I had for him was profound. The rage I felt at God for depriving me of that future was profound. But there was nothing to do except sit with all those feelings. Slowly I discovered a different kind of love, a different but equally joyful way of being that included not being in control of life (or much of anything for that matter). It is weird to say I am grateful for all that, but that is the truth.
Then you know the gap, Marcia, all to well. The distance between what we hoped for and what we got that seems impossible to cross, so you just sit there, mad at God, mad at everything, feeling all the feelings. Your story is a light for us all, because what you’ve just told us is that the grief and all those feelings were the way….they led you to here, to a place where you have learned to live in the feelings (the heart) without the need for control (the mind). You’ve just described the journey humanity is now taking on a larger scale - you’ve already walked the path and now you’re showing us your footsteps to follow. Thank you Marcia. I’m sure the road was not easy to walk, but to hear that gratitude lives down the path of we simply follow the deep feelings, even the uncomfortable ones, that gives us all hope. Thank you 🥰
I don’t relate to that term. It sounds like emptiness. Please explain why you call it that?
Grief to me is a full experience of continuing love for someone or something that is not present in the way it once was - either because of death of the human body or some change in the experience that used to be. For example, I feel grief about the erosion of democracy, but I also feel committed to strive for democracy. I feel grief about loved ones who have died, but I also talk to them and tell them I love them. But the feeling of love, the intensity of love, endures. This is not a “chasm”, as I understand the term, but a different experience of the love. Please explain your perspective.
We are both saying the same thing in different ways. Grief is the distance between what we hoped for and what we got, and in that way, we feel grief all the time, often just in small ways. There’s grief in planning a picnic only to wake up to a rainy day - there’s a gap between what we hoped for and what we got, and that gap is the grief. Sometimes, the gap between what we hoped for and what we got is so enormous it looks like the Grand Canyon - a chasm that we don’t know how to cross. It seems impossible to bridge the gap. The erosion of democracy is a good example - we hoped for a democracy that works and what we got is a broken system now on fire, and the distance between the two is enormous. What we hoped for is the thing we loved, and that love is the thing that can help us bridge the gap. Did I explain it better this time? xx
Hello dear Wizard - and thank you for continuing the conversation. I feel this conversation is important because it relates to your visionary understanding of our future where the heart leads and the mind follows. A bit of background - I’ve been concerned for decades really, that American culture doesn’t allow grief, doesn’t allow deep sorrow as a natural human response to tragedy. Often, Americans move directly from tragedy into rage, or distraction, with no pause to understand and grieve. For example, I was horrified when an elderly friend lost her husband of 50+ years, and her doctor told her after just 2 months that she needed an anti-depressant to stop grieving. This is in great contrast to older cultures that grieve in community together, and don’t tell each other to stop grieving.
In addition, many American scientists have repeatedly stated that “feelings are unscientific”, and therefore useless. Since women are typically associated with “feelings”, this bias has been used to denigrate women as well. It is also why animals are experimented on mercilessly, and their cries of pain are ignored by scientists.
So, because I have pondered this question of feelings a long time, and because your recognition of a heart-centered future is crucial - I’d like to suggest that we can all expand our hearts’ capacities to feel by recognizing subtleties of feeling and emotion, as well as language.
With this in mind, I’d like to reframe what “grief” is. If my picnic were rained on, I would feel disappointment, not grief. If my friends weren’t available to reschedule the picnic for weeks, I might feel sad, but not grief. When a friend of mine tells me someone dear to them has died, I feel sorrow for my friend - but not grief about someone I did not know. And when I lose someone dear to me, I feel grief. Sometimes that grief lasts across decades, even a lifetime.
I hope my attempt to distinguish between these emotions is clarifying rather than annoying.
Wizard, your vision of a heart-centered future seems to me to require a wide spectrum of feelings and subtleties that can truly enrich us and our world. Thank you for listening and for your inspired work.
I read your Daily Lighthouse piece first thing then, before going to the Resonance Room, went directly to the Sabian symbols on the Oracle site because I had a burning question about something in my heliocentric chart which I've been exploring, and my final question produced "17 Gemini" which directly answered it but for some reason prompted me to glance at my geocentric chart to see if I had something at that point -- Vesta sits exactly there (Retrograde, if relevant) in my 7th house. Keeper of the sacred flame, or hearth, which is exactly what my last three romantic partnerships were all about. ["Hearth" without the initial "h" is earth, and without the final one is "heart" which jumped out at me one day when I glanced at the word in connection with Vesta and her placement in my chart]. Then I left Linda's Oracle site, and landed right here at an article I was reading entirely cold as I had zero awareness of any of this firestorm and likely never would have had you not posted about it. The coincidence of timing is uncanny and EVERYTHING IS INTERCONNECTED. Whenever I look away these days, the next glance points me at a previously hidden truth. Unexpected opportunities to explore are dropping like birds from the sky.
I’m a boomer & raised two GenXers with the practice of tough love. We are so far away from this kind of love that you feel like sitting on the sidelines watching a society self destruct. I was raised in the same manner & even though it felt hurtful some times, I knew I was loved & prepared for life.
Thank you for explaining this drama surrounding their statements & points of few. I happen to agree with all three of them. However, I’m not impressed with Kraft. He’s just another wealthy capitalist trying to rule the word & suppress open conversations.
Btw, I have a stellium in Capricorn with a Pisces rising. I have certainly felt that more direct & honest side of Capricorn wanting to come out. Lilith & I may have some interesting conversations.
Your message is SO very timely for me. Thank you very much for the unknowing support. I really needed this today. I have a cousin, whom I love very much. She has had a very difficult, tragic life, and she has major trust issues. After much thought, prayer, etc., I confronted her on something that needed to be said and heard by her. I knew going in that it could mean the end of our relationship. But, I knew it was the right thing to do. So, I confronted her and have lost her trust. I still send her holiday greetings and have told her I love her. I also apologized for hurting her although I made it clear I made a conscious decision. I have no regrets, but I hurt for our relationship. Lately, I’ve been mourning her, so I needed this clear understanding you’ve just provided for all of us. 😘
I had no idea about any of that as I live in a mainstream media-free bubble. It’s nice in there. What I found really interesting was this being the time of love being truth. I’ve been getting messages in meditation for the past year that I must not be afraid to share my truths. Which I didn’t think I was! So I’m still trying to figure out what truths it is I need to share.
This is a wonderful article and very moving. Recently my patience for the endless censoring of the truth has come to an end and I feel the same energy on a worldwide scale as well, so in both the micro and macrocosm.
Personally the Final Boss Battle has been in my relationship, where I’m butting up against old guilt, tired patterns, and suppression, hanging around like a bad smell.
You are talking about the world. You are talking about my 34-year-old marriage. It's astonishing. And it all hits.
Who even ARE you???
🙂
Just your friendly neighbourhood wizard 🧙😜😎
Ditto, and I have had the same question for the last year-ish.
Damn.... Sorry to hear.
I love this piece SO much. “If love is truth, and truth is fire, then sometimes love burns.” Your ability to see the truth behind all the noise is extraordinary. You’re my absolute favorite writer on Substack, and I follow a LOT of people! Bless you for making our world a better place and thank you for all you do! 💕
Thanks Wiz! Not only do you teach about politics and astrology but you also teach how to deal with fear.
It’s the most important thing for us to all learn how to hold. Fear lives beneath all the fury in our world - a whole planet running scared because we forgot how to feel. Slowly, we are remembering….
Dear Wizard - I believe your message is describing true grief. Grief is sadly misunderstood, especially by American culture. The core of love that burns in the center of our being - whether for people, for Nature, for truth - feels like the enduring experience of grief. It is not temporary sadness, not superficial sentimentality. Grief is not just a feeling about “loss”. For me, grief is an enduring experience of overwhelming love where anger can arise to protect that which is precious - and “that” may be a living being or a living ideal, such as justice. The fire within the love can propel action to prevent harm, like a mother bear defending her cubs. Thank you for explaining what Neptune in Aries is revealing. May the truth within love propel Americans to defend democracy like a mother bear.
The image of the mother bear is powerful - that really is love in action, though it probably looks like rage or anger, when it’s really just love on fire. Grief is that thing we feel when what we get is miles away from what we wanted - grief is the chasm, and no wonder so much of us feel so much grief right now. This is not the world any of us wanted. The thing with grief is we’re not meant to rush through it or wait it out or hope it passes - we’re supposed to stare into that chasm and feel it deeply, and let those feelings guide our thoughts and actions. It’s only by feeling that grief for the world we hoped for that we didn’t get that we can hope to know what needs to be done to go after something better. xx
This is so true. My youngest son was born with severe disabilities. The grief I felt over the loss of the hopes and dreams I had for him was profound. The rage I felt at God for depriving me of that future was profound. But there was nothing to do except sit with all those feelings. Slowly I discovered a different kind of love, a different but equally joyful way of being that included not being in control of life (or much of anything for that matter). It is weird to say I am grateful for all that, but that is the truth.
As always, I am thankful for your words.
Then you know the gap, Marcia, all to well. The distance between what we hoped for and what we got that seems impossible to cross, so you just sit there, mad at God, mad at everything, feeling all the feelings. Your story is a light for us all, because what you’ve just told us is that the grief and all those feelings were the way….they led you to here, to a place where you have learned to live in the feelings (the heart) without the need for control (the mind). You’ve just described the journey humanity is now taking on a larger scale - you’ve already walked the path and now you’re showing us your footsteps to follow. Thank you Marcia. I’m sure the road was not easy to walk, but to hear that gratitude lives down the path of we simply follow the deep feelings, even the uncomfortable ones, that gives us all hope. Thank you 🥰
Hmm… grief to me is not a “chasm”.
I don’t relate to that term. It sounds like emptiness. Please explain why you call it that?
Grief to me is a full experience of continuing love for someone or something that is not present in the way it once was - either because of death of the human body or some change in the experience that used to be. For example, I feel grief about the erosion of democracy, but I also feel committed to strive for democracy. I feel grief about loved ones who have died, but I also talk to them and tell them I love them. But the feeling of love, the intensity of love, endures. This is not a “chasm”, as I understand the term, but a different experience of the love. Please explain your perspective.
We are both saying the same thing in different ways. Grief is the distance between what we hoped for and what we got, and in that way, we feel grief all the time, often just in small ways. There’s grief in planning a picnic only to wake up to a rainy day - there’s a gap between what we hoped for and what we got, and that gap is the grief. Sometimes, the gap between what we hoped for and what we got is so enormous it looks like the Grand Canyon - a chasm that we don’t know how to cross. It seems impossible to bridge the gap. The erosion of democracy is a good example - we hoped for a democracy that works and what we got is a broken system now on fire, and the distance between the two is enormous. What we hoped for is the thing we loved, and that love is the thing that can help us bridge the gap. Did I explain it better this time? xx
Hello dear Wizard - and thank you for continuing the conversation. I feel this conversation is important because it relates to your visionary understanding of our future where the heart leads and the mind follows. A bit of background - I’ve been concerned for decades really, that American culture doesn’t allow grief, doesn’t allow deep sorrow as a natural human response to tragedy. Often, Americans move directly from tragedy into rage, or distraction, with no pause to understand and grieve. For example, I was horrified when an elderly friend lost her husband of 50+ years, and her doctor told her after just 2 months that she needed an anti-depressant to stop grieving. This is in great contrast to older cultures that grieve in community together, and don’t tell each other to stop grieving.
In addition, many American scientists have repeatedly stated that “feelings are unscientific”, and therefore useless. Since women are typically associated with “feelings”, this bias has been used to denigrate women as well. It is also why animals are experimented on mercilessly, and their cries of pain are ignored by scientists.
So, because I have pondered this question of feelings a long time, and because your recognition of a heart-centered future is crucial - I’d like to suggest that we can all expand our hearts’ capacities to feel by recognizing subtleties of feeling and emotion, as well as language.
With this in mind, I’d like to reframe what “grief” is. If my picnic were rained on, I would feel disappointment, not grief. If my friends weren’t available to reschedule the picnic for weeks, I might feel sad, but not grief. When a friend of mine tells me someone dear to them has died, I feel sorrow for my friend - but not grief about someone I did not know. And when I lose someone dear to me, I feel grief. Sometimes that grief lasts across decades, even a lifetime.
I hope my attempt to distinguish between these emotions is clarifying rather than annoying.
Wizard, your vision of a heart-centered future seems to me to require a wide spectrum of feelings and subtleties that can truly enrich us and our world. Thank you for listening and for your inspired work.
Beautifully said.❤️ I live under a rock, so I missed all that.
I read your Daily Lighthouse piece first thing then, before going to the Resonance Room, went directly to the Sabian symbols on the Oracle site because I had a burning question about something in my heliocentric chart which I've been exploring, and my final question produced "17 Gemini" which directly answered it but for some reason prompted me to glance at my geocentric chart to see if I had something at that point -- Vesta sits exactly there (Retrograde, if relevant) in my 7th house. Keeper of the sacred flame, or hearth, which is exactly what my last three romantic partnerships were all about. ["Hearth" without the initial "h" is earth, and without the final one is "heart" which jumped out at me one day when I glanced at the word in connection with Vesta and her placement in my chart]. Then I left Linda's Oracle site, and landed right here at an article I was reading entirely cold as I had zero awareness of any of this firestorm and likely never would have had you not posted about it. The coincidence of timing is uncanny and EVERYTHING IS INTERCONNECTED. Whenever I look away these days, the next glance points me at a previously hidden truth. Unexpected opportunities to explore are dropping like birds from the sky.
I love that!! Yes it’s all connected!!!
🔥
I’m a boomer & raised two GenXers with the practice of tough love. We are so far away from this kind of love that you feel like sitting on the sidelines watching a society self destruct. I was raised in the same manner & even though it felt hurtful some times, I knew I was loved & prepared for life.
Thank you for explaining this drama surrounding their statements & points of few. I happen to agree with all three of them. However, I’m not impressed with Kraft. He’s just another wealthy capitalist trying to rule the word & suppress open conversations.
Btw, I have a stellium in Capricorn with a Pisces rising. I have certainly felt that more direct & honest side of Capricorn wanting to come out. Lilith & I may have some interesting conversations.
Your message is SO very timely for me. Thank you very much for the unknowing support. I really needed this today. I have a cousin, whom I love very much. She has had a very difficult, tragic life, and she has major trust issues. After much thought, prayer, etc., I confronted her on something that needed to be said and heard by her. I knew going in that it could mean the end of our relationship. But, I knew it was the right thing to do. So, I confronted her and have lost her trust. I still send her holiday greetings and have told her I love her. I also apologized for hurting her although I made it clear I made a conscious decision. I have no regrets, but I hurt for our relationship. Lately, I’ve been mourning her, so I needed this clear understanding you’ve just provided for all of us. 😘
I had no idea about any of that as I live in a mainstream media-free bubble. It’s nice in there. What I found really interesting was this being the time of love being truth. I’ve been getting messages in meditation for the past year that I must not be afraid to share my truths. Which I didn’t think I was! So I’m still trying to figure out what truths it is I need to share.
This is a wonderful article and very moving. Recently my patience for the endless censoring of the truth has come to an end and I feel the same energy on a worldwide scale as well, so in both the micro and macrocosm.
Personally the Final Boss Battle has been in my relationship, where I’m butting up against old guilt, tired patterns, and suppression, hanging around like a bad smell.